Recovering Our Value Amidst Rejection
You and I matter.
College days are full of new and exciting adventures such as being on your own, eating what you like, and finally getting to do the dirty laundry your own unique way. You, and many of your colleagues have a long check list of things to do, stuff to bring, and people to call before venturing unto the new experiences awaiting you. But in the middle of you frantic college preparations, and for the following months and years to come, please don’t forget that you are valuable, and you do matter. More critical and valuable than even your new MAC PC, new back-bag, and wardrobe is starting and continuing college with a firm belief that you are valuable, worthy, and important. Taking this to college with you won’t cost you the 2000 bucks your new MAC will cost your mom or dad. It’s free for you to embrace, accept and believe in when you choose to do so.
We all come from many childhood homes, and various life experiences that seem to define how we see and perceive ourselves. All of us have experienced various levels of physical, emotional, or spiritual rejection in our past; some mild and annoying, while others horrific and extreme. Many of us live with hurtful and unpleasant childhood, teenage, and adult life memories of being disapproved, unaccepted, and rejected. To many of us, the weight is too heavy to bear alone and so we reach out at our peril to others, or to anything, in pursuit of rest and relief to our burdened hearts.
Friend, you and I are created with value, worth, and importance. We’re made for a uniquely good life purpose that’s designed specifically for each one of us regardless of the portion or station in life we find ourselves in. Whether confined for a life time to a wheelchair or freely walking, living miserably in the world’s poorest slums or lavishly in the grandest of mansions, we all matter.
What we think and feel about our own value or others’ worth can be akin to a roller coaster ride with many unexpected ups and downs. But our value, worth, and importance mustn’t be determined by ups and downs of opinions and emotions; ours or someone’s, but by faith in true and rock solid facts. Truly, the antidote to the poisonous emotions of disapproval and rejection is recognizing our solid, unchanging, and inherent God -given gift of value that’s freely given to you and I.
The negative thoughts and emotions about ourselves and others that we might harbor; the legacy of hurtful rejections, require a rebooting and an upgrade of our thinking, beliefs, and emotions to what’s new, good and healthy. We must decide to believe in our God-given human value, to take decisive steps to help us embrace what is already ours, and choose to change and reboot our thoughts and beliefs.
You and I are “fearfully, and wonderfully made”.
You and I are divinely created for a great purpose, and a plan that we can only begin to see and appreciate when we get out of our selfish mindset and beliefs that life is all about us, and our personal interests and gains. It’s only when we’re no longer prisoners of the tyranny of ‘me-myself-and-I’, that we begin to lovingly, passionately, humbly, and compassionately reach out to our fellow men and women in need.
When we finally recognize that life is not just about our comfort and needs, you and I begin to reach out to others in need and to those who’re less fortunate. It’s then that we begin to see our life purpose, the value of all human lives, and our own worth and value.
“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
Matthew 25: 40
To God we all matter; all colors, looks, body shapes, physical abilities or disabilities.
Our well being and health; body, mind, and spirit matter
No matter how we’re perceived in this world, or past or present failings and failures, our dreams, words, thoughts, joyful and hurtful emotions, physical, mental, financial, and spiritual health, time, work, gifts and talents are all important, and all matter.
And yes, because you and I immensely matter, Heaven rejoices when our thoughts, words and deeds become loving, caring, and kind; to ourselves, families, friends, and to others.
Indeed, ” No man is an island, entire of itself…any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.” as English poet John Donne wisely reflected in his 1624 work.
And friend, aren’t we all tired, in one way or another, consumed, and exhausted from waiting and hoping to capture our value and worth from financial breakthroughs, great accomplishments, and the praises and accolades of others. What a waste of life to wait in grief and anguish for the value, worth, and approval that has already been guaranteed, and granted to each and every one of us.
If we just believe.
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Advice and recommendations offered here are not meant to replace your medical provider’s individual evaluation, diagnosis and treatment. Please see your medical provider for any physical or emotional concerns.
Views expressed here are only of the author, and do not represent the views of any other organization or entity.
Adel G. Hanna, M.D,
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